Divorce Is Dangerous To Your Coin Collection.

Thanks to all of you who shared divorce stories. It can't be easy to remember those awful experiences. My wife died 4 years ago, and my situation is easier than what my divorced friends have gone through.

My condolences to you and your daughter, bryan. As to the hide your collection from everyone, not a good idea. Make sure someone (parents, good friend, etc.) knows so if YOU die suddenly ( hope not) it is not lost and the people that should get it get it.

For those here who went through or are going through a divorce, I was curious to know the reasons why you got divorced. I know it's none of my business but would anyone here care to share? Did any of it have to do with coin/bullion collecting or other reasons such as financial, or infidelity?

Realmetal, I am very comfortable talking about my divorce. I started this thread to share my experience with anyone who might be going or knows someone who is going through a divorce. My passion in life is numismatics as I am sure it is for some. Looking back, I went through a period where my coins took a back seat. I firmly beleive that the healing process begins when the things that always brought you happiness can once again become a positive part in your life. In the last two months, I have rediscovered my passion.

In life some of the best lessons are those you learn from the experiences of others.

That being said, when I was married I was completely faithful to my exwife. Our issues weren't financial, although they became financial during the divorce. A few years ago my exwife was diagnosed with scizoeffective disorder. It is one of more serious personality disorders. There were constant mood changes and she would sometimes become extremely violent. When someone has a serious personality disorder, it becomes quite difficult to get help for them, because they are usually in denial. Sometimes in life you can only try so much.I didn't give up on her until she became physically violent on a regular basis.

That is a really tuff and ambiguous question. The problem with such a question about divorses, at least, is your only going to hear one side of the situation. In almost every instance of a divorce I've ever known, it was always the OTHER person's fault. The OTHER person cheated. The OTHER person was blowing all the money. The OTHER person just turned out to be a real nut. The OTHER person was abusive.
And too in almost every instance I've known, since I'm a male, I hear the Male's side of the story. A lady I know told me with her it's always the opposite. It's always the male's fault.
An attorney once told me in every divorse there is always a winner, a louser and a few that really don't matter. The louser is usually any kids. The winner is the attorneys. The divorce individuals really don't count.

@Bryan1315 that will pay off for you in spades. Taking the high road is of the utmost importance when it comes to children. My son's father died last year when he was 11 and I am so incredibly thankful that I kept my mouth shut. My son was aware of some of his father's problems but did not need to know the details. He now has mostly good memories of his father and for that I am grateful.

As a child of divorce myself, I was used as a weapon between my parents and swore that if I did divorce, I would not do that to my child. God bless and hang in there.

Sighting a National divorce rate of 60% and the remaining 40% being miserable in their marriage: I've always felt if most Coin Collectors would have discovered Coin Collecting before they met their spouses, there probably would be a lot less divorces because fewer of us would chosen to have gotten married.

Glenn