Divorce Is Dangerous To Your Coin Collection.

Guess the best practice then is to hide the coins from literally everybody.

@Conder101 - He did have a very well-crafted will, and our lawyers are second to none in central NJ... However, it's NJ. :-) The taxes here are horrid, intrusive, and squandered. I realize now, that if I had the strong interest in numismatics then that I have today, I probably could have salvaged the majority of his collection.

Alas, at the time it was not a strong hobby. :-(

I firmly believe that the best secret is one that is closely held and definitely not shared unless you positively have to bring someone else in on it.

It has been talked up about the perils of divorce and without a doubt they are very real and should not be taken lightly. When there is an economic downturn the impace is least upon the individual who has the best future income possibility. The reverse is true when there is an economic upswing. You can agrue away future earnings because they are not here yet, but you can't agrue away present earnings.

Therefore there is a good basis for keeping certain things private. A shared secret will always come back to bite you. Sizable off book cash or precious metal reserves are to your benefit.

A secret held by one is much better than a shared secret. They will come back to bite you. I've had both.

the thing that people think about also even when they hide things is that if something was to happen to them they don't want this thing they have had in their possession to go unnoticed when they could use it for their families benefit after they are gone. The one person you usually trust with this information is your wife and maybe kids. This is what makes it difficult for some to keep their hiding places secret from Everyone. I don't know anyone that worries more about their collection than they do about what will happen to their family if something was to happen to them, I am just talking about a Man since I am not sure what kind of things a Woman thinks of when it comes to things like this. A Man is supposed to be the one that provides for the family so I know it definitely weighs on my mind about this type of thing

Thanks to all of you who shared divorce stories. It can't be easy to remember those awful experiences. My wife died 4 years ago, and my situation is easier than what my divorced friends have gone through.

My condolences to you and your daughter, bryan. As to the hide your collection from everyone, not a good idea. Make sure someone (parents, good friend, etc.) knows so if YOU die suddenly ( hope not) it is not lost and the people that should get it get it.

For those here who went through or are going through a divorce, I was curious to know the reasons why you got divorced. I know it's none of my business but would anyone here care to share? Did any of it have to do with coin/bullion collecting or other reasons such as financial, or infidelity?

Realmetal, I am very comfortable talking about my divorce. I started this thread to share my experience with anyone who might be going or knows someone who is going through a divorce. My passion in life is numismatics as I am sure it is for some. Looking back, I went through a period where my coins took a back seat. I firmly beleive that the healing process begins when the things that always brought you happiness can once again become a positive part in your life. In the last two months, I have rediscovered my passion.

In life some of the best lessons are those you learn from the experiences of others.

That being said, when I was married I was completely faithful to my exwife. Our issues weren't financial, although they became financial during the divorce. A few years ago my exwife was diagnosed with scizoeffective disorder. It is one of more serious personality disorders. There were constant mood changes and she would sometimes become extremely violent. When someone has a serious personality disorder, it becomes quite difficult to get help for them, because they are usually in denial. Sometimes in life you can only try so much.I didn't give up on her until she became physically violent on a regular basis.