Umm, My Wife Is Already Mad, So I Might As Well Go For "3"!!

I do like the Ancient Coins, just not educated enough to know the types and values...
I do on rare occasion try and purchase Ancient Errors at what I think is a good price, and have viewed some nice Ancient Errors on CCF that is out of my budget (but open to making a trade for some of my non-error American Coins)...

@DavidUK, as someone who has been through a divorce and remarriage, I agree coins can be a tricky thing. The first time, I did not do a prenup but we both had coins that we had before the marriage that were off limits. The coins we accumulated during the marriage became mine because I traded them for things that were not as important to me.

The second time I did make it very clear that what was mine was mine. He also collects coins and what was his was his. We started buying together and keeping tally. We teased each other. But our separate collections started looking lonely.

Then a funny thing happened last year during our 5th year anniversary and re-writing of the wills. They somehow became ours and what were formerly his he wanted to go to my son instead of his nephews. We actually designated a special night where we put some of the collections together and magically they appeared complete. Now I know I will never divorce this man because we can't break up the collection. Kill him maybe, but divorce is off the table.

The difference between the first and second marriage is before the second marriage we had an extremely frank discussion on finances, our spending habits and our overall goals for our financial future. Even though we were serious, we agreed that if we could not mesh on the financial situation, we would need to reconsider the relationship. You know what the outcome of that discussion was.

That said, my hubby is a prince who is perfect for me. Marrying him was not about finances and I sound like a love struck teenager but 6 years into this marriage, I can't imagine my life without him. I would not have this if I had been afraid to face straight on hard discussions such as finances.

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In England a prenuptual is not legally binding...and the law is an absolute butt here when it comes to marraige.

For instance if my GF had a particularly expensive watch that she received for her 21st birthday why on earth should I be entitled to it if we split up?

Secondly if I was the only one working (because she does not wish to work) and we split why should she be entitled not to work for the rest of her life and live of me? I don't wish to work either and only suffer it because I need to eat and wish to provide for someone I love...if we are not together why should she reap the benifits from me when I would be getting nothing from her (assuming no children involved)

This situation that the courts dont recognise prenuptual agreements sucks... I didnt collect coins my whole life to give them away to someone else and I know too many people (particularly men) who have been badly burned in divorce courts.

I am with someone that I love and who loves me, and I am 99% sure that isn't for money or my passport. If I married her I dont see why I would have to surrender my finanances for the rest of my life should it not work out... as it is I would be devastated should it not work out, to have to work the rest of my life paying for her while I think about it is a fate I cannot imagine.

Yes I would like her to have her fairy tale wedding and to have children with her and I can commit that I would never be unfaithful and would take good care of her but the legal implications of marraige I see are just illogical. I trust her in the here and now but would be stupid to ignore the possibilty that despite both of our good intentions things dont always work out.