Okay, I didn't want to resurrect old threads

about this, and I didn't see any recent ones. And there are enough newbies and returnees around to re-visit this, anyway. Please link a recent thread, if that's a better angle for discussion.
Two parter (each worthy of its own thread?):
1) How does one grade a weak strike (without going all EAC net on us)?
Just annotate that it is a weak strike? "Details VF-20; weak strike"? Knock a VF details down to a "F"? Look the other way and flip it into the "return to the wild" bin? Donate it to the YN folks and let them cogitate on the meaning of "weak strike"? (oh, how does one take a tax write-off for the value of a YN donation--oops, completely different topic)
What do the third-party grading services do with a weak strike coin grade, especially non-MS grades? Charge double?
2) How does one tell the difference between wear and weak strike?
I always thought that a primary indicator is "balance." If parts of a coin side are mushy and parts are sharp, that's a good tell for a weak strike. Or if the obverse is strong and the reverse is mushy, that could be a weak strike. Wear is generally balanced. But that doesn't always work, does it?
Thanks for perspectives, cogitations, and random ramblings!