mishap-coins - I will do my best to reply to your questions.
You ask -"So say like a quarter is 5.67 grams and if a quarter was found to of weighed say 5.39 or 6.95 would be out of line ? Correct?"
For a silver quarter I would agree that 5.39 grams would be either worn nearly smooth or would present a serious problem requiring an answer. For clad coins, I would presume essentially the same thing with the exception that an underweight original would likely be far more common because of the loss of cladding layers. The upper limit of 6.95 is far too heavy to be reasonable. Now 5.95 would be far more likely.
When considering coin weights - you have to allow for the use of the incorrect metal stock. If the metal sheet meant for a Half Dollar passes through the machine punching Quarter blanks you do get an overweight coin. Similarly, if the metal intended for 10 cent coins is punched with a quarter punch you get a very lightweight planchet.
Say a quarter weighs 5.670 grams or 87.5 grains and I find a quarter that weighs 88.3 grains a difference of .8 grains is this on the high side? The coin described is uncirculated and has a different shade of color , doesn't have a shiny clad surface, kinda looks grayish. ? What would cause the extra weight ? Any ideas ?
The altered color could point to a coating of some sort that adds weight. You see coins dipped in clear polyurethane quite often. I have also seen coins with a layer of dried wood glue on them. But you could also add a bit of weight and get a dull gray with a mercury or zinc dip. Just some random thoughts.
Regarding the loss of the clad layer - that can vary. The thickness of the clad layer is NOT a standardized item so the weight loss can not be accurately predicted.