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Pillar of the Community
Canada
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While it is nice if someone says thanks, life is too short to devote much energy to be upset over the failure to receive thanks for some usually small effort (all that is needed in most cases).
It may be just a matter of education. Perhaps no one was taught manners properly or perhaps it never occurs to people that manners also apply to the disembodied ghosts in cyberspace who help.
Maybe our instructions should be amended to mention that it is expected that questioners should acknowledge replies. Maybe it is already there.
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Rest in Peace
United States
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Not really, except when they never post promised pics.  |
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Moderator
 United States
54283 Posts |
After YEARS of posting on public boards endeavoring to help people with various topics, I have found that I come to expect that some posts I will never know if the original poster even saw the answers. I have to come to EXPECT no acknowledgement, thus I am never disappointed but I am always happy when it IS given.
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Pillar of the Community
 United States
7066 Posts |
Thanks, all, for the replies (see, that wasn't so hard!). Quote:
Maybe our instructions should be amended to mention that it is expected... Personally, I'd prefer no acknowledgement over one that was mandated. But I guess that, sadly, some folks do need to be reminded of common courtesies. Just to be clear: I do not lose any sleep over the lack of replies. But, if I have spent an hour digging for information for someone, and they don't care to even acknowledge my attempt at assistance, I admit it will sometimes prompt in me a Spock-like raised eyebrow. |
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Rest in Peace
United States
10625 Posts |
I have been irked in the past by this but it will never stop me from replying to someone's post. I'm like you, I enjoy looking at other people's coins and dashing off to attribute them, Morgan dollars in my case. |
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Moderator
United States
56855 Posts |
It's nice to get a thank you, but it's not necessary. I like to help when I can. I have noticed a lot of "one posts and then gone" people, does that bother anyone? John1  |
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Pillar of the Community
United States
4809 Posts |
Not really John. Sometimes folks just need a quick answer so I'm fine with the one-and-done visitor.
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Bedrock of the Community
United States
10047 Posts |
I refuse to reply.
No, seriously it does not bother me. If no reply is ever made, even after asking again, I just assume the answer was not known by anyone. I know how busy people are nowadays, and although am a firm believer in common courtesy, I also understand that modern society is redefining their levels of what they consider to be common courtesy. No gentleman tips his hat to a lady on the street anymore and our ancestors would have considered us all very rude for that.
I am just glad I can help someone when they need it. But I was a teacher and this is hardwired into my mindset. I don't always think a lack of saying thanks is actually a deliberate thing b/c I have seen kids, who when I have given them help and a mental lightbulb turns on, they are so excited in pursuing the new avenue of thought that everything else around them is a blur. I like to see this happen.
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Rest in Peace
United States
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The only thing that used to bother me was it left me wondering if they ever got the information they requested. I don't know why it bothered me, but it doesn't any more.
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Moderator
Australia
16868 Posts |
One thing to remember: if the OP posts a question and it is moved by the mods, the OP gets an automatically-generated e-mail telling them it's been moved, with a link. I will usually wait until a "good answer" has been given before moving a thread posted by a new member, so that there will be something useful for the OP to read if they click on the link in the e-mail. So the only reason the OP would miss the answer to their question is if the e-mail address they gave when they signed up was bogus, or if their spam filters are too strict.
As for not receiving a reply of thanks, it certainly doesn't bother me. It's apparently my nature to be helpful, whether people reciprocate with thanks or not. Besides, this is the Internet, and it's by nature somewhat depersonalized compared to a face-to-face interaction. It's all too easy to forget that replies posted to your question on an Internet forum are coming directly and personally from other human beings, and not from Google or Wikipedia.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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As an OP, I will admit that I am guilty of this at times. Not as much anymore, but sometimes when I post a "showing off a new purchase" thread, I honestly feel like there is not really any way to respond to a half dozen "Cool coin!" posts, especially when I end the OP with "Thanks for looking!"
Other times, I'll start a thread about a lot and either there seems to be no more interest, or something comes up and the lot moves from my "actively sorting" pile on my desk to my "backlog" box. When I get to it three months later, it just feels odd to resume the thread, so I'll start a new thread for anything that deserves or needs one.
When responding to an ID request, recognition is nice, but I would never browse the ID forum or click on topics with a "Help!" title if I did not enjoy the process of finding an ID in its own right. The only ones that really bother me are the ones who post something that could be something really special, then vanish before posting a follow-up.
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Bedrock of the Community
United States
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Not really John. Sometimes folks just need a quick answer so I'm fine with the one-and-done visitor. Same with me. Actually I never gave this a thought. If someone asks something I can reply to, I do. If I don't know, usually just pass. |
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Pillar of the Community
United States
1119 Posts |
If they don't come back and tell me my well researched information is wrong and they are right and start an argument with lots of name calling and virtual hair pulling, I feel shorted
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Bedrock of the Community
United States
11951 Posts |
It would be nice if the Op responds to the replies.
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Bedrock of the Community
Australia
21788 Posts |
I am not concerned if the OP does not respond.
What is posted subsequently may be still worth a useful read.
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