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Valued Member
United States
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I was given alot of coins back when I was a kid from my Grandfather, wheat's by the bank bags ,silver dimes and nickles whitman coin albums that were filled a few hundred 2 dollar bills that I collected along the way when I was growing up now here is my issue,
My fathers ex girlfriend who we both lived with in the 1980.s has all my coins and bills and have asked for them back and I still have not seen them and its been 20+ years I have a feeling she still has them in her possession for the fact that she is well off in life .
I just want it all back to hand them down to my kids when its time ,should I file a police report to get my property back ?
Thanks,
Matt-
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Pillar of the Community
United States
2797 Posts |
Matt
That pains me to read that. 20+ years is a long time to wait for something. Without proof that the collection is yours (itemized will), you don't have much of a legal chance.
Why not go over and do this face-to-face, with as much civility as you can muster under these circumstances. Explain to her how much these mean to you and you would like them back.
Good luck.
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Bedrock of the Community
Canada
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I agree, with SeatedNut, don't cause any commotion, just ask if you can have your coins back.... 20 odd years, is a long time to try and get something back.  |
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Pillar of the Community
555 Posts |
Have a lawyer send her a letter with an itemized list, demanding the coins back. You have nothing to lose.
The police will do ABSOLUTELY nothing, I guarantee it.
Edited by Neil
06/12/2010 4:45 pm
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Pillar of the Community
United States
4212 Posts |
I have been trying to retrive 27K face silver for 4 years, it's about a dead issue. It was left in the name of the family trust.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
613 Posts |
I agree with the others theres not a whole lot you can do. Put a smile on your face and in a pleasant way ask her nicely. If that doesn't work, I guess we'll be seeing you on AMW.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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chances are she IS not a collector. I would think she sees them as $$$. but I can tell that these are more heirloom-ish/intrinsic value to yourself. I think if that point was made to here face to face, you may have some luck.. most family members, not sure about ex's, have no problem... best of luck
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Bedrock of the Community
United States
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For real the police is really poor choice. There is nothing they can do unless you have proof of what she has, a court order saying to give it all to you, etc.
An attorney will cost you money and pending on how much is involved, that too could end up costing more than the coins are really worth.
Naturally it is way to late to even say you shoulda, coulda, woulda done this or that.
Not sure how many times you've asked but I tend to think the nicest approach is your best bet. Not being a pest but I'd bring up the coins to her again and mention how you'ld like to pass them along to your kids someday. DO NOT bring up value. DO NOT mention they may be worth a lot. Just say it sure would be a great tradition to have your kids continue a family hobby. Not even a coin collection, just a family hobby. And be sure to mention how some of those are yours from when you were a kid.
It is really a shame when some people are so petty in their thinking they would stoop to with hold family items for no reason except stupidity.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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Sadly, unless you appeal to her better nature and explain that they are actually yours and she says ok you can have them back, I will agree with the above comments.
Any other way...I can't recommend...well, they might not be legal or ethical..so I won't recommend it.
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Valued Member
United States
470 Posts |
When was the last time you asked her for them back?
From your original post, you make it sound like it was 20 years ago.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
8904 Posts |
Write a registered letter. Have it required to have her signature for receipt. Mail it. Request a response within 7 days.
This identifies you establishing a "Legal Trail" of correspondence to re-obtain your property.
This also establishes a legal standing for your demanding your property back.
See a lawyer if you receive nothing back within 7 days.
It's important. Get mad. Get angry. This is your property. Demand it back.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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okay now moe, were not in a pro wrestling match
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Valued Member
 United States
450 Posts |
About 3 years ago I had spoke with her ,I have my Father working on this too seeing how he still lives in the same town as her ,I will see what he finds out
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Bedrock of the Community
United States
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Getting mad, sending registered letters, hiring an attorney, etc. is one of those things that could end up dragging out this situation forever. Making her irritable and without actual proof that some of it is yours can serve little to know purpose. And as a way to get even she could simply take everything to a bank, deposit it as just money and then you could not even begin to prove what is what.
Another big problem is she is not even related so she could say one thing and not have to ever worry about other relatives of yours. As long as your Father is still around, you might want to sort of try having him negotiate this. You and your family will have to handle this with kid gloves, so to speak. She has nothing to loose by getting rotten about the entire situation. AND if she is mad at your Dad, she might just take it out on you. BE NICE.
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Valued Member
United States
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Hmmm, sounds bad.
You don't say anything about how everyone gets along so it's kinda hard to get a handle on the situation. If it was a nasty breakup and she doesn't care to hear from you or your dad then your pretty much screwed. Your only hope is to make nice and hope she is a decent sort. If you try to get nasty or involve lawyers, police, etc all she has to do is say she doesn't have them and who is to say different. C'mon, it's been 20+ years. Why would she still be sitting on them for you? I don't mean to be a jerk but it's pretty unrealistic to expect her to have these set aside, plus whatever else was left behind, stashed somewhere for this long just waiting for you to decide you want them.
I'm guessing you're just going to have to write this off as one of those life lessons that crop up every now and again that we all love so much. Don't let an ex hang on to anything of yours (valuable or not) and if you do don't wait 20* years to try and get it back.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
581 Posts |
Have doc Brown pic you up in the Delorean and go get them back
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