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 Do what you think is best. Without evidence it's pointless to pursue, on the other hand, there is a certain satisfaction in letting your "friend" know exactly why you no longer want to associate with them. I had a similar breach of trust recently from a "friend" of 20+ years recently, I felt a whole lot better about it after I had my say. |
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Very sorry to hear about your missing coin and the bad situation it has caused with your friend. It is a sad story all around. If it were me, I would probably let it go. He probably grabbed it in a moment of weakness; we are all fallible. It is on his conscience. Since he is depressed and having problems, I probably wouldn't abandon him. Of course I would never show him my collection again.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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I agree with Chrycopaul,Just ask if he received it by mistake.Then he will know that you know it is missing.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
:) sn31.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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I think I have a good idea. Being confronted with dishonesty he surely is not going to come clean. BUT, you can give him wiggle room and (possibly) still get your coin back.
"Hey, remember when I gave you my duplicate coins? OMG I accidentally gave you my 1817 Large Cent! That has a great deal of sentimental value because (insert story here) and I really need that one back! Thanks."
Worth a shot.
Edit: I just read that it's already been suggested. I tend to agree with that suggestion. The only thing I would add is- don't ask him if you accidentally gave it to him. Put it accross like you KNOW you accidentally gave it to him.
Edited by USArmyParatrooper
05/15/2007 7:35 pm
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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BTW, if I'm ever in town I would LOVE to see your collection!  Just kidding :) |
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United States
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Here's a thought. Tell him the same story, but make it seem it was someone different that you were showing the coins to. Ask him for his opinion. Let him know that you're absolutely crushed and that you don't know how to confront this "other friend".
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Sure thing Paratrooper. Hope you won't mind the handcuffs and blindfold and the strip search afterwards? Just FYI to everyone - I sent him an email and cancelled something we had planned next month and in my last sentence I asked him if he had ever gotten that Large Cent he wanted? I told him that I had my collection out this week and it made me think to ask. If he happens to be guilty there will not be any doubt in his mind that I know what he did. Other than that I don't intend to play anymore games with him. Now does anyone have a good line on a replacement?
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United States
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Hmm, I personally think that the "I think I gave it to you by accident" would have been a better route.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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You are entitled to your opinion Zett, but than I am the one who lost the coin and I know how I want to handle it. Why would I want to take him off the hook when he just stole it? Likely he would deny that I gave it to him (which would be true) and I would have helped him rationalize his action. Too gamey for me - now please folks no more advice on how to get it back. Help me find another. Peace.
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Your title of this thread is very appropriate. We live and learn. Easier said than done. I only hope that however you handle it, it won't keep you miserable, bitter or depressed. That you can get past that do what you love to do with the same passion!  Edited by thingee
05/15/2007 8:59 pm
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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Chris Victor-McCawley has a number of 1817s http://www.eacs.orggo to links and click on his banner. Some of the other dealers there may have some as well. |
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United States
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Sorry to hear about the theft.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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Sorry to hear this Okie. Hope you'll find another nice replacement at a reasonable price.
Metalman, that's a great idea. I would never think of something like that.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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Its just one of those unfortunate situations where you can't really do much. That day you lost a few things, your coin, your friend, and your trust.
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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I understand that you want to just let things go... But you at least have to mention the loss to him. Maybe he put the coins you gave him in a corner some place and didn't look at them again yet. I would definetly tell him about it, at least.
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