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When I was a young guy first out in the dating scene, I remember reading some advice in a newspaper column about how to impress a woman. They gave several pointers about what a woman would like to hear and how to possibly impress her.
They also gave some advice about some things to never tell a woman. One of them was "NEVER tell her that you collect coins!"
Obviously they viewed coin collectors as boring nebbishes.
Any personal experiences to relate regarding this topic?
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In college, first get grades then get girls.
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My advise to you is well Quote, "They gave several pointers about what a women would like to hear and how to possibly impress her". If your following that advise, your not being yourself and if the women is not ok with you being your self then you don't belong together in the fist place. IMO if a girl isn't ok with the fact that you collect coins your not meant to be together because that's our thing, its what we do and its "our self". I'm not going to give up a hobby that I'm so interested in to have a girlfriend that doesn't care about it, it wouldn't work. The only personal experience I can think of in relation to the topic is me standing in a coin store with my best friends girlfriend and my best friend outside smoking, his girlfriend was talking to me about how its weird and boring and all that stuff and I asked her why and she said its just not her thing, coin collecting that is. We should have some females on this thread stating there opinion . Good topic!  |
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Joking aside, I somewhat agree that coin collecting should not be one's opening move unless you meet the person of your dreams at a Coin Convention.
However, this hobby, like others, can be somewhat consuming (both time-wise, attention-wise, and financially-wise), so it's probably best to come clean about it early on in the relationship!
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Some of my better coins are presents from my wife.
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I would say that on a first or even 2nd date, while "courting", one needs to actively try to impress their date. If this means carefully crafting your words, then so be it. Eventually, the person you will marry should be someone who you trust enough to share all your interests and dislikes with. They certainly dont have to share your passion for your interests but they should respect your interests enough to recognize what is important to you. If your significant other actively encourages you to change who you are, including discouraging you to quit your hobbies, then you need to find someone else.
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10/09/2014 07:08 am
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Don't spend the first date talking about the hobby and I think you'll be fine. I think if a date is really interested in knowing about your hobbies its ok to mention it.
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If you want to impress your date, listen to what she has to say. Don't spring your coin affliction on her until after you're married for a few years.
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On your first date don't talk about coin collecting, stamp collecting or that horrible rash you can't seem to get rid of.
If all your date talks about is her Mom, her doll collection or her part time job as a door-to-door spray cleaner sales person you better rethink this date. Now if she came to your door and YOU asked her out you are on-your-on.
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if the women is not ok with you being your self then you don't belong together in the fist place.
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We should have some females on this thread stating there opinion I'm one of many women on this forum and I agree  Maybe a few others will pop in. Also agree with the following: Quote:
However, this hobby, like others, can be somewhat consuming (both time-wise, attention-wise, and financially-wise), so it's probably best to come clean about it early on in the relationship! Quote:
They certainly dont have to share your passion for your interests but they should respect your interests enough to recognize what is important to you. Hobbies are what interest us, so of course you should ask about hers and she should be interested in yours. But I especially agree with the last quote - very true. Whether your hobby is video games, coin collecting, or restoring vintage cars, our significant other doesn't need to participate, but they should certainly respect it Of course, if you end up spending the grocery money on the newest coin you saw and had to have, then all bets are off  |
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After my wife's death, I met a woman that was really interested in me but wanted to know more about me. After telling her a bout flying, and fishing, and guns, and all that macho stuff, I mentioned that I really love to "look at" old coins. She pulled out a three pound coffee can full of coins and asked for help. We spent several weeks going through that can and found a lot of neat coins. We go to every coin and gun show we can. Love that woman!
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10/09/2014 5:04 pm
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So xshift stole my thunder, I cannot disagree with anything she states. I would just say it is possible to be true to yourself on a first date without revealing too much. Some of the fun in dating can be letting little bits out at a time. Now, if the first date is Comic con or a FUN show, start saving for the happily ever after! Quote:
Of course, if you end up spending the grocery money on the newest coin you saw and had to have, then all bets are off Oh yeah, it's on then. Edited by CoinsKelly
10/09/2014 9:15 pm
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Early on, Sheila was fine with it, even though she's one who uses debit almost exclusively.
If she gets cash, she'll make sure that I get a chance to look at it.
We're engaged and will be married early next year.
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I guess paper money counts too since I consider myself more of a bill collector rather than a coin collector, although I do both. I think the biggest dilemma is getting them to understand why anyone would spend $500.00 on a $5 silver certificate or $300.00 on a LWC. That alone may freak someone out. |
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