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I am being forced (i.e. threatened with divorce) if I don't recoup the money I spent on two bogus gold coins a couple weeks back. I am selling my collection, or as little of it as possible to get this done. I am wondering if anyone has any ideas as to the best way to be able to save most of it. I will not part with the Mercury dimes, she can get out now if it comes to that, but I don't know whether to sell say the V nickels as a set or pull the keys out and sell them alone? |
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Pillar of the Community
United States
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Pillar of the Community
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To what lengths are you willing to go? I'm not in your position; however, if you were me, you might:
1. Sell all duplicates
2. Choose a "set" and sell it
3. Consider that:
a. selling a whole set means starting the set over from the beginning
b. selling the keys/semi-keys only may cultivate and/or haunt a replacement/completion obsession
I dont know if you'll understand this or if it really even applies -- it would for me:
Will the lesson you may be about to learn and action you take be reciprocal to the cost of the mistake on a monetary, emotional, and psychic level for you? your wife? your marriage? Will any (ongoing or unresolved) regret or anger about how you chose to resolve this cause more or ongoing destruction? What do you believe you'll eventually find as the most acceptable solution?
Out on a limb here.
Jim
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Pillar of the Community
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and, if you pray? PRAY !!
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Huh? I haven't seen any thread describing what happened with the gold coins. Have you told the story and I missed it? I'm just wondering because it all sounds pretty horrible. As far as making up for the loss, I would definitely sell all duplicates first. After that I am not sure what I would do. All I can say is good luck and I'm sorry to hear about the dilemma.
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You could 'pawn' it to a friend of yours and pay it back over time.
So sell it to someone you know for let's say... $1000. Then make payments at 10% interest.
Let the loaner keep the coins as collateral and then get the coins back once the payment is complete.
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I would suggest thinking really really hard about selling something "else". DON'T SELL YOUR COINS ! Go through the garage and find stuff, the attic, the basement........whatever. Put ads in the paper for these items and recoup the money that way. Even such things as extra gardening tools would sell. It's the middle of the winter so......a garage sale is probably out of the question........that's why I think the newspaper or ask friends if they would like to buy stuff to help you out. TRY THIS STUFF FIRST BEFORE YOU START SELLING COINS !! DON'T DO IT MAN ! (and I want to hear the story on the gold coins too!)
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It says in your profile that both you AND YOUR WIFE are officers of a coin club and own a coin shop. Seems like she wouldn't want to part with any of the collection either if it's her hobby as well. Losses are also an unfortunate part of doing business. If this loss hasn't put you in debt financially, I'd suggest just moving on without selling anything, take the write-off on your taxes, and deal with your wife's anger for a while. She'll get over it.
This part is none of my business, but it's something to think about. If she's serious about divorcig you over a loss on some coins, there's probably a lot more underlying problems between the two of you...people don't give up on a marriage over a one-time loss.
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Can you give more details as to why you cant do anything about the bogus gold coins? Cant you recoup the money from the person who sold it to you? Or is that not an option? I dont know the details of the purchase of these coins but I am assuming you can not get the money back from the seller from some reason?
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I dont mean to be rude but when I clicked on your profile, there were a couple of other topics where it sounds like your wife is forcing you to do something. It comes across as she is calling the shots when in a marriage, it should be a partnership. So maybe there are issues bigger than a couple of bogus gold coins purchased? Again, not trying to be rude, but in a relationship there has to be some give and take and it is coming across that you are getting the short end on a couple of coin issues. I am not trying to be judgmental but trying to help you see that maybe help is needed beyond what people can offer in this forum. Good luck with everything.
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I'm giving the benefit of the doubt about "the wife" thing......... I take it as "tongue and cheek" and not necessarily some deep seeded "Dr. Phil" issue. I have a lot of friends who talk like this, and they're 80% joking around....... The wife says this .......the wife says I have to do that....... I'm assuming that's just "humor".......... Everybody does tend to "frown" when they observe the "she wears the pants" thing.........maybe it works here ?.... but ........I don't know......there's my Two Cents ! If your marriage works and you're both happy, then more power to ya I say ! Too much divorce in this world and NOBODY has the right answer apparantly ! Just drag the guy from the bogus gold coin deal back to your wife AND LET HER TAKE CARE OF HIM !! IT SOUNDS LIKE "SHE" MAY GET THE MONEY BACK FOR BOTH OF YOU ! LoL Ha Ha |
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 United States
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Okay, with the gold coins, I completely messed up. I sometimes like to think I know everything about U.S. coinage when my specialty is really just a small section. Our shop is small and we have very little gold and it is almost always the modern eagles and occasionally one from the late 1800s. This guy came into our shop and presented two "gold" coins. They were old and appeared to be foriegn. Upon closer examination I noticed some English around the rim that said "Commemorating the Panama Canal 1915" San Fransisco and a bunch of Roman Numerals. I had to use every ounce of effort not to grin from ear to ear because I know those gold Panama Commems go for big money. I didn't open the book because I thought I didn't have to. I made an offer and we began to haggle and long story short the guy walked out with a Roll of Morgan dollars, two rolls of Walking Liberty halves and 1300.00, part of which was set aside for my house payment. I cannot get the money back because it was my mistake and I have no idea where this guy is or who he is. Even if I did he would refuse to give it back and by the time I got it it would be too late. So you see I really messed up and the wife had to go borrow 800.00 to keep us going and we now have only 4 Morgans and 6 walkers in our little shop. I really put everyone in a bind and I feel awful. The only thing we could think of that would bring that amount that quickly and not affect the shop any further was to sell some personal coins. Thank you for your replies. |
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Pillar of the Community
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It most likely won't help you to get your money back, but file a police report. If you live in a small town, the cops might have nothing better to do with their time than investigate it.
Edited by mahgobbi
01/31/2008 10:28 am
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Pillar of the Community
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Phil, there is not a coin made worth the love and trust of your wife. Put your arm around her and explain how it happened and what you are going to do to insure that it does not happen again. She does not want to hurt you, she has just lost confidence. Do what it takes to fix the problem and be more careful, she is the most precious thing you have along with children.
JIm
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Oh man..... that is terrible......I don't even know what to say. You offered this guy an incredible deal for fake coins that you didn't recognize..... That could certainly happen to many many people though. This teaches us ALL to be very careful and not make rash purchases. I've done it........just not on that scale.
I'm just sooooo sorry that had to happen. You'll take no solace in this, but, that guy will have a judgement day, If he's that crooked and sneaky then likely he has been in jail and will likely go back there in the future. We can all just hope that he finds "his" soulmate while incarcerated, if you know what I mean.
But for the here and now........ that is just so sad.....and I'm so sorry to hear this story ! All I could offer is sympathy. You have to do what you have to do to keep yer' head above water and beg your wife's forgiveness (which I'm sure you've done). Hopefully she'll only be really mad for a month or two and then you both can move on. Likely she'll never "completely" let you forget this though ! After all........ SHE IS A FEMALE ! Just kidding ! ha ha
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You will not like this, but you are not being fair with your wife, or yourself! You said: "I will not part with the Mercury dimes, she can get out now if it comes to that",. That is not the best position to take. You did not confer with her on the purchase, and that is not what "Partners" do She is "suffering a loss" because of your actions. She had to borrow money to keep the store afloat. What is her partner going to do? Own up to the mistake, and peplace the $800.00 she had to borrow, and apoliogize for being too "one-sided "with your interests. A marriage is something that takes a lot og GIVE, and take! My suggestion is, if it comes down to selling the "mercurys" then what are you waiting for? I would not risk losing my wife of 53 years, over a bunch of coins, and especially over a big mistake on my part. I'm sorry, if this offends, but one must face facts. The fact: You messed up! Admit it, and ask the wife to forgive, and help you forget! Dick |
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