Posted 12/24/2016 10:47 am
Webekin, this is a very noble endeavor you are considering. I encourage you to follow through with this. However I want to caution you to be very careful and prepare yourself for whatever consequences result from this.
I am the leader of the congregation of the church I attend. I have many members that are poor and/or in extreme poverty. Because I work so closely with them I have received extensive training on how to best help them. I have also learned how the poor think and act and I have learned the difference between a poor person and someone who is in poverty.
First of all know that the words poor and poverty cannot be used interchangeably. I know doctors that have incomes well into the six figures, yet they live paycheck to paycheck. They are poor. Conversely I know a person that is earning less than $20,000 per year, yet they have a long term plan to improve their education, manage and save their money and "move up" in the world. They are in poverty.
If this neighbor is truly poor then prepare yourself to be surprised by what they buy with the money you give them. Keep in mind that those who are poor have a very different set of values and what would be an almost alien way of thinking about everything.
The only thing that concerns me is you referring to their poor marriage. If you mean that they are simply poor or they are in poverty then go ahead with your plan. If you mean that the marriage relationship is poor then be extremely careful because putting an unexpected gift of money in the middle of it most likely would cause things to explode.
If you are interested I can give you a few questions to ask and what responses to listen for. This would help you determine rather quickly if they are in poverty or are truly poor.
I am the leader of the congregation of the church I attend. I have many members that are poor and/or in extreme poverty. Because I work so closely with them I have received extensive training on how to best help them. I have also learned how the poor think and act and I have learned the difference between a poor person and someone who is in poverty.
First of all know that the words poor and poverty cannot be used interchangeably. I know doctors that have incomes well into the six figures, yet they live paycheck to paycheck. They are poor. Conversely I know a person that is earning less than $20,000 per year, yet they have a long term plan to improve their education, manage and save their money and "move up" in the world. They are in poverty.
If this neighbor is truly poor then prepare yourself to be surprised by what they buy with the money you give them. Keep in mind that those who are poor have a very different set of values and what would be an almost alien way of thinking about everything.
The only thing that concerns me is you referring to their poor marriage. If you mean that they are simply poor or they are in poverty then go ahead with your plan. If you mean that the marriage relationship is poor then be extremely careful because putting an unexpected gift of money in the middle of it most likely would cause things to explode.
If you are interested I can give you a few questions to ask and what responses to listen for. This would help you determine rather quickly if they are in poverty or are truly poor.
