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Pillar of the Community
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My apologies if this topic was ever covered previously. I was tempted to post this on the Ancients board (where I spend most of my CCF time and where I occasionally observe this issue, including several times as of late) - but I realize it is probably better suited to the Main Coin Forum.
For those of you who have occasionally invested time and effort assisting other CCF members who post questions or who need attribution assistance, only to receive no acknowledgement or expression of gratitude for your efforts, I wonder: Do the lack of response and good manners bother you? Or is the research that you do so rewarding that whether or not you receive a "thank you" is irrelevant?
I suspect that sometimes, with newbies whose posts were moved to more appropriate forums by moderators, they (the OP) simply never found their posts again and that that may account for the lack of reply. But, I must say, sometimes (not often, but sometimes) CCF "veterans" are guilty of failing to demonstrate good manners by acknowledging others' efforts on their behalf too.
I would say that, personally, lack of acknowledgement bothers me slightly, and that I see it as symptomatic of a larger erosion of manners these days. But I do enjoy the challenge of studying and attributing coins, and of organizing and sharing my thoughts on related subjects - as much as a personal intellectual challenge than out of a desire to help a fellow coin enthusiast. Any time spent researching and learning more about (ancient) coins is time well spent, as far as I'm concerned.
I'm curious to know if you've occasionally devoted some effort and time to assist someone here, only to get no reply - and if so, whether that bothered you.
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07/04/2016 1:35 pm
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Any time spent researching and learning more about (ancient) coins is time well spent, as far as I'm concerned. So many of the coins we see needing attribution come from OPs with zero or one post. They sign up, ask their question, and then float away off into the ether. I accept this outcome as a pretty good percentage of OPs receive bad news--their one coin is common or counterfeit. Since coin collecting isn't a hobby for them, there isn't much stickiness to this website. For me, at least, your statement above absolutely nails it. "If you climb a good tree, you get a push."
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Pillar of the Community
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Hi Bob - It's more the latter for me. I'm process oriented so for me, the lifelong journey of education is where the payoff is with me. It's a skill that we all should endeavor to perfect. But that said, the lack of acknowledgement (from new or old) can be irritating at times especially after repeated responses go seemingly unnoticed. But I choose to shrug it off and move on knowing the downside is that I might choose to ignore further requests for help from that person.
I think that this is the symptom of the larger issue you note; devolution of good manners. We can only hope that by setting good examples that others will follow in kind. It won't always work and when (and if) it does, we likely won't be around to see it. So hopefully, the greater good has been done and the world is a bit sweeter for it.
Don't despair; continue to support others and set the example.
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Your point about one-posters' lack of "stickiness" is well-taken, Dave. However, I have to say, if I'm traveling and I stop to eat at a restaurant I'll likely never visit again, I still say thanks to the waiter/waitress and leave a tip. And I still say thanks to the cashier at the local gas station or store I stop in. My mama taught me right!
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...the lifelong journey of education is where the payoff is with me. It's a skill that we all should endeavor to perfect... Absolutely.  |
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I had a chuckle on your restaurant reference. Mine is a little closer to home; in home really. My wife likes to experiment in the kitchen which usually has a great payoff with me as she's a very good cook. But every-once-in-a-while, a dud (maybe something she saw on the food network and tried to repeat from memory). I never say anything until she asks how it was: "It was fine, but probably not something I'd eat regularly." So-far, so-good. I've not seen a repeat experiment yet. |
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If I am guilty of this, I will apply myself to never let it happen again. I am in awe of the expertise and helpfulness of this board, and would not want my appreciation to go unexpressed.
I only wish I had found it years earlier -- the things I would have done differently had I but known that such a resource was available.
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While it is nice if someone says thanks, life is too short to devote much energy to be upset over the failure to receive thanks for some usually small effort (all that is needed in most cases).
It may be just a matter of education. Perhaps no one was taught manners properly or perhaps it never occurs to people that manners also apply to the disembodied ghosts in cyberspace who help.
Maybe our instructions should be amended to mention that it is expected that questioners should acknowledge replies. Maybe it is already there.
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Not really, except when they never post promised pics.  |
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After YEARS of posting on public boards endeavoring to help people with various topics, I have found that I come to expect that some posts I will never know if the original poster even saw the answers. I have to come to EXPECT no acknowledgement, thus I am never disappointed but I am always happy when it IS given.
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Thanks, all, for the replies (see, that wasn't so hard!). Quote:
Maybe our instructions should be amended to mention that it is expected... Personally, I'd prefer no acknowledgement over one that was mandated. But I guess that, sadly, some folks do need to be reminded of common courtesies. Just to be clear: I do not lose any sleep over the lack of replies. But, if I have spent an hour digging for information for someone, and they don't care to even acknowledge my attempt at assistance, I admit it will sometimes prompt in me a Spock-like raised eyebrow. |
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I have been irked in the past by this but it will never stop me from replying to someone's post. I'm like you, I enjoy looking at other people's coins and dashing off to attribute them, Morgan dollars in my case. |
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It's nice to get a thank you, but it's not necessary. I like to help when I can. I have noticed a lot of "one posts and then gone" people, does that bother anyone? John1  |
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Pillar of the Community
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Not really John. Sometimes folks just need a quick answer so I'm fine with the one-and-done visitor.
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I refuse to reply.
No, seriously it does not bother me. If no reply is ever made, even after asking again, I just assume the answer was not known by anyone. I know how busy people are nowadays, and although am a firm believer in common courtesy, I also understand that modern society is redefining their levels of what they consider to be common courtesy. No gentleman tips his hat to a lady on the street anymore and our ancestors would have considered us all very rude for that.
I am just glad I can help someone when they need it. But I was a teacher and this is hardwired into my mindset. I don't always think a lack of saying thanks is actually a deliberate thing b/c I have seen kids, who when I have given them help and a mental lightbulb turns on, they are so excited in pursuing the new avenue of thought that everything else around them is a blur. I like to see this happen.
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The only thing that used to bother me was it left me wondering if they ever got the information they requested. I don't know why it bothered me, but it doesn't any more.
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